Vitamin Gay

GLBT Related Politics, Music & Art Reviews

now for unoffensive, but shameless, self promotion June 23, 2012

as you my readers know, I have an etsy store front! :O I’m a tailor/costumer and all around artist and I sell my various wares there in my shop.  What you may not know is that I also sell vintage stuff there…like typewriters, vintage vinyl, antique hats and so forth.  Be sure to check back often for the regular stock updates, I add items at least twice a week :).

I also have a nice and expanding variety of drag queen accessories, garter belts, thong underwear (and soon bras), corsets (photos coming soon), shoes and more.

Help support a starving trans artist pay the bills and start his savings pile for that elusive top surgery (I’ll start running a tally once I’ve got something in there…currently I’ve got $1, help me add to it 😀 & wish me luck!)

Much love! and enjoy the last of Pride Month 2012 (someone have a scotch old fashioned for me please? i no can has booze 😦 )

 

massively offensive adverts

on the topic of disrespect for trans people in this country (and in general) and the fact that we are often treated as the butt of jokes, I thought I’d bring to attention an advert I found while surfing around the net.  Its old, from the 90’s in fact, but its still a shining example of the ignorant and ‘freak show attraction’ sort of regard in which we are held…the ad was for the hotel chain Holiday Inn (someplace you wont catch me after seeing an advert like this, not that I’d probably stay there anyway, but i digress), in which they…well here, lemme copy over the description because typing it out is gonna make me see multiple shades of red…

In the 1990s, the Holiday Inn hotel chain decided to get with the times and undergo a billion dollar renovation. When it was finished, they chose the 1997 Super Bowl as the venue in which to brag about it. They ran a commercial that depicted two classmates at a high school reunion. One tries to place the name of the beautiful woman standing before him and after a few guesses, he figures it out — the vision of beauty before him used to be named Bob.

The voice-over then goes on to reason that since the thousands of dollars that “Bob” had spent had been such a success, wouldn’t the same hold true for a billion-dollar hotel chain renovation? As it turned out, the answer was no. Not only did the campaign fail to renew interest in the chain, it was deemed offensive by LGBT groups, who boycotted the hotel. ”

still from the ad…
and instances like this are exactly WHY i sure as fuck wouldn’t be caught dead at my 10yr reunion…hell to the NO!

frankly I’m appalled…and like i said, i know this is over a decade old but still, the audacity of such an ad speaks volumes of the blatant disregard for the feelings of those in the trans community, this sort of attitude leads to incidents like the recent fiasco w/cake boss and how they made Poor Carmen Carerra cry :(.  Its good to know this ad got yanked and, of course, the national GLBT community largely boycotted the chain, but still, the fact that they even put together such an ad just, WHOA man, the galling ignorance is stomach turning, and this sort of idea (that its ok to call a trans person by their former name and/or pronoun just because ‘you just found out’ or whatever is all too common and extremely frustrating, not to mention very emotionally painful to the trans person in question…when i came out my dad told me ‘i’m ok w/it but you’ll always be my little girl’ and i had to tell him, no dad, NO i wont because i never was ‘your little girl’ i was a young man TRAPPED & IMPRISONED against my will because we have no say in how we are born into this world, only in how we will turn out…and we only have so much say in that).   Yes, when you first find out that your old high school chum who used to be ‘bob’ (in the case of the ad) is now nancy or sue, you do get a FEW slip ups w/a free pass and only a minor warning, after that though you’re expected to adapt like a fucking intellectual adult WOULD and get it the fuck right, after that, we start getting increasingly hurt and/or pissed off (and w/good reason).  And adverts like this perfectly illustrates the sort of attitude that is keeping me AWAY from my 10yr reunion next year, not even gonna go there.

Speaking of offensive adverts, while we’re at it, here’s a link to the list of the top 10 most offensive adverts of 2011…and OOOOOH MAN are they some doozies…i mean DAMN, we’re talking like Mitt Romney levels of blindingly ignorant for not noticing HOW offensive these ads were when they were conceived (seriously HOW DID THESE MAKE IT? either onto tv or into magazines, i will NEVER know because DAMN…just WOW!…the first one especially, recivilize yourself???? WHOA! just…i don’t have words for how racist, bigoted and incredibly insanely inappropriate that ad is, i just can’t see how it got past and published/run…it shall forever be a mystery)

 

the ‘apology’ from cake boss June 13, 2012

so cake boss did ‘apologize’ I use pretty heavy sarcasm because it wasn’t much of an apology, it was an attempt to try & excuse their obscenely RUDE and disrespectful behavior by playing off as ‘oh i was only jokin, i didn’t mean to HURT anyones feelings’ yeah, BULLSHIT!  if your intent wasn’t to make fun of Miss Carmen, then what WAS your intent?

*taps foot* well, i’m WAITING mr. cake boss man…oh whats that? you don’t HAVE an answer, well what a surprise.  people like you and yours absolutely sicken me because you’re a shining example of one of the many problems in this country, the main one being utterly blatant and flagrant IGNORANCE of, well, just about everything.

While we appreciate your ‘apology’ mr. cake boss, it doesn’t come across as at all sincere and instead comes across as a smell pile of shit you plopped out in an attempt to save some face in the PR department…i some how doubt it will placate the community though (certainly doesn’t placate my ass…you didn’t MEAN to hurt her??? you didn’t MEAN to? then what exactly DID you mean by making her the butt of an extremely transphobic joke??? again…waiting for that answer that, if ever it comes, i know wont be satisfactory).  this is NOT a joking matter you asswipe shit stain, this is serious shit and you have seriously bitch slapped our T community right in its face.

you can read their ‘apology‘ on their face book page…and the commentary on the ‘apology’ on cake boss’s face book is just as ignorant…seriously, how do you NOT SEE how hurtful this is? oh right, you’re ignorant, braying jack asses who have no hearts…right, silly me 😛

you CAN NOT just play this off as a ‘WHOOPS my bad, der, sorry’ incident when you had MET w/the individual in question before shooting and discussed what terms were APPROPRIATE to describe and transitioned trans person…but did you use those words? NO, you decided it would be MUCH funnier to freak out ‘cousin anthony’ (who is doubtlessly homophobic, judging by their reaction to this bullshit shenanigans…said individual also refers to Carmen as ‘it’ in their twitter feed, further disrespect but oh my, who’s surprised, raise your hands…oh look, no one…) by telling him he had been flirting with ‘a man’…not a trans woman, not someone who was BORN male and transitioned, no, you decided it would be SO MUCH FUNNIER if you just called her out on national television as a freak, and you’re trying to play it off as ‘oh sorry, we didn’t MEAN anything by it’ yeah, you know what mr. cake boss, FUCK YOU! you can sit & spin mother fucker, assholes like you make me want to wretch, you give me the fucking dry heaves like the hangover from hell (and a headache to match w/your ignorance & utterly blatant stupidity).

i encourage all of you to go tell mr. cake boss man just how you feel on the facebook page (link above, hyper linked) and let him know that his half ass ‘apology’ isn’t good enough and tell him right were he can stick it.  we are not amused and your ‘oh i was just jokin der hur hur’ apology doesn’t cut it and definitely isn’t reading sincere or like you’re SORRY for jack shit, what you’re really sorry for is that you embarrassed your worthless hide and made the show look like a show run by jack asses…which, fact being that it clearly is, job well done ass wipe!

also, be sure to go to Carmen’s page and tell her how much you appreciate her and give her hugs because she had to endure this bullshit which she SO did NOT deserve.  *HUGS FOR CARMEN!* ❤ stay strong chica, your T community and your fans all LOVE YOU! ❤

 

take a min to tell ‘cake boss’ what you think of how they treat the T community June 12, 2012

friends, I come to you today to ask that you help spread the word about this very unfortunate incident involving a show on TLC called ‘cake boss‘ (i honestly have no idea what that is, nor do i care to find out after the shit they pulled), who had our girl Carmen Carrera on an episode and said they would use the proper and respectful terms to describe her and then blatantly threw in a ‘whoa thats a MAN’ moment…WTF people, where do you get off?

The incident reasonably upset poor Carmen, apparently made her cry even (poor girl, i would too), and i ask that you sign the petition along w/me to send them a message that this sort of behavior is shamefully wrong and that they should publically apologize for this bullshit because it is NOT ok.

You think its FUN being born into the wrong body fuckers? you think its FUN to make fun of trans individuals & people w/GID? you have no heart!  people w/this problem frequently commit suicide because they just can’t COPE with the way society treats us like circus freaks, we are NOT some side show attraction for you to gawk at people, we are REAL people just like you, w/REAL emotions and the shit you pull frankly is so incredibly hurtful sometimes that you’re luck trans people are largely non-violent unless they’re actively being threatened at the moment because i’d hate to see what would happen if we weren’t.

If Carmen walked down the street, and you had no familiarity w/Rupaul’s drag race, or who Carmen was, you WOULD NOT be able to clock that! that is an unclockable, 100% passable piece of hot female right there! and you had no right to call her out like that on public television of ALL places you scum.

thats my two cents on the subject, Carmen honey I’m sorry you had to go through that, its not right and I sincerely hope they publicly apologize like they should.  *hugs* stay strong girl! much love to you & all my trans sisters & bros.

PS- HAPPY FUCKIN PRIDE MONTH *RAINBOW CONFETTI* go out there and get you some! (some booze, some hot ass, some partyin it up, whatever you want, its pride and its a month long mardi gras ALL OVER the country! WOOO!…someone slam some tequila for me since i can’t drink 😉 LOL)

 

little cinderella boy… June 10, 2012

so I’ve been kicking around the idea of writing a children’s book for some time now, several years, and I’m finally getting around to sitting down and hashing out like actual details and such.  It would be fully written and illustrated by myself and would be basically a simplified & slightly altered (altering some of the more traumatic life instances to be something a lil less nightmarish, don’t want the poor kids to have bad dreams on my part…so instead of being beaten up for wearing dads clothes I’ll think of something a bit less traumatizing to put in…was grounded or something ya know) story of my life.  I think it would be good to have some children story appropriate material to read to children on issues like being trans, it would help them be better adjusted toward dealing with encountering the concept of transexuality & intersex people later in life.

the reason I have mostly settled on the title ‘little cinderella boy’ is because I had a very cinderella sort of experience growing up…I had to do 3/4s of the household chores, anything that went wrong was some how my fault (those of you who have read the cross over posts from WTMC- welcome to my cell- know what i’m talking about) etc and so forth, and I eventually ran away and found my handsome prince who took me away from it all.  Its also, in its own way, my effort in the ‘it gets better’ project (which given the social backlash currently prevalent in our society of late, I think is a good thing to have around as a reminder that YES things SUCK, but it will get better, the impossible takes a little time as they say).

I’ll share some preliminary sketches once I’ve got them and I’m still working on the language of the book…i can’t decide whether to refer to my past (childhood) self in the male or female pronoun, its a little hard to hammer out and i’m concerned that using the male pronoun w/the pictures of the ‘little girl’ might get confusing, both for the kid and for the reader (if that makes any sense), anyone have any thoughts? I want it to be easily comprehended.

sorry this post is over a day late, depression is something i have chronic issues with (as well as other psych problems) and I kept getting side tracked and forgetting to sit down and hammer this out real quick.  If you have any thoughts or input leme know.  Cheers!

 

blog post coming soon June 7, 2012

i’ll be posting a blog later tonight some time (not sure about what yet…possibly the children’s book i’m going to write and illustrate…we’ll see)…just wanted to let you guys know that there will be an update coming soon. in the mean time, check out the stock up dates to the store and have a GREAT day :D! Cheers!
L.D. Originals & Custom Couture Etsy Shop

 

PS- High Sierra is an AMAZING film, but the ending is a WICKED bummer (I still heartily recommend it! my partner was quoted as saying ‘that ending makes Casablanca look like Singin in the Rain’ lol…definitive classic noir film!)