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the ‘apology’ from cake boss June 13, 2012

so cake boss did ‘apologize’ I use pretty heavy sarcasm because it wasn’t much of an apology, it was an attempt to try & excuse their obscenely RUDE and disrespectful behavior by playing off as ‘oh i was only jokin, i didn’t mean to HURT anyones feelings’ yeah, BULLSHIT!  if your intent wasn’t to make fun of Miss Carmen, then what WAS your intent?

*taps foot* well, i’m WAITING mr. cake boss man…oh whats that? you don’t HAVE an answer, well what a surprise.  people like you and yours absolutely sicken me because you’re a shining example of one of the many problems in this country, the main one being utterly blatant and flagrant IGNORANCE of, well, just about everything.

While we appreciate your ‘apology’ mr. cake boss, it doesn’t come across as at all sincere and instead comes across as a smell pile of shit you plopped out in an attempt to save some face in the PR department…i some how doubt it will placate the community though (certainly doesn’t placate my ass…you didn’t MEAN to hurt her??? you didn’t MEAN to? then what exactly DID you mean by making her the butt of an extremely transphobic joke??? again…waiting for that answer that, if ever it comes, i know wont be satisfactory).  this is NOT a joking matter you asswipe shit stain, this is serious shit and you have seriously bitch slapped our T community right in its face.

you can read their ‘apology‘ on their face book page…and the commentary on the ‘apology’ on cake boss’s face book is just as ignorant…seriously, how do you NOT SEE how hurtful this is? oh right, you’re ignorant, braying jack asses who have no hearts…right, silly me 😛

you CAN NOT just play this off as a ‘WHOOPS my bad, der, sorry’ incident when you had MET w/the individual in question before shooting and discussed what terms were APPROPRIATE to describe and transitioned trans person…but did you use those words? NO, you decided it would be MUCH funnier to freak out ‘cousin anthony’ (who is doubtlessly homophobic, judging by their reaction to this bullshit shenanigans…said individual also refers to Carmen as ‘it’ in their twitter feed, further disrespect but oh my, who’s surprised, raise your hands…oh look, no one…) by telling him he had been flirting with ‘a man’…not a trans woman, not someone who was BORN male and transitioned, no, you decided it would be SO MUCH FUNNIER if you just called her out on national television as a freak, and you’re trying to play it off as ‘oh sorry, we didn’t MEAN anything by it’ yeah, you know what mr. cake boss, FUCK YOU! you can sit & spin mother fucker, assholes like you make me want to wretch, you give me the fucking dry heaves like the hangover from hell (and a headache to match w/your ignorance & utterly blatant stupidity).

i encourage all of you to go tell mr. cake boss man just how you feel on the facebook page (link above, hyper linked) and let him know that his half ass ‘apology’ isn’t good enough and tell him right were he can stick it.  we are not amused and your ‘oh i was just jokin der hur hur’ apology doesn’t cut it and definitely isn’t reading sincere or like you’re SORRY for jack shit, what you’re really sorry for is that you embarrassed your worthless hide and made the show look like a show run by jack asses…which, fact being that it clearly is, job well done ass wipe!

also, be sure to go to Carmen’s page and tell her how much you appreciate her and give her hugs because she had to endure this bullshit which she SO did NOT deserve.  *HUGS FOR CARMEN!* ❤ stay strong chica, your T community and your fans all LOVE YOU! ❤


take a min to tell ‘cake boss’ what you think of how they treat the T community June 12, 2012

friends, I come to you today to ask that you help spread the word about this very unfortunate incident involving a show on TLC called ‘cake boss‘ (i honestly have no idea what that is, nor do i care to find out after the shit they pulled), who had our girl Carmen Carrera on an episode and said they would use the proper and respectful terms to describe her and then blatantly threw in a ‘whoa thats a MAN’ moment…WTF people, where do you get off?

The incident reasonably upset poor Carmen, apparently made her cry even (poor girl, i would too), and i ask that you sign the petition along w/me to send them a message that this sort of behavior is shamefully wrong and that they should publically apologize for this bullshit because it is NOT ok.

You think its FUN being born into the wrong body fuckers? you think its FUN to make fun of trans individuals & people w/GID? you have no heart!  people w/this problem frequently commit suicide because they just can’t COPE with the way society treats us like circus freaks, we are NOT some side show attraction for you to gawk at people, we are REAL people just like you, w/REAL emotions and the shit you pull frankly is so incredibly hurtful sometimes that you’re luck trans people are largely non-violent unless they’re actively being threatened at the moment because i’d hate to see what would happen if we weren’t.

If Carmen walked down the street, and you had no familiarity w/Rupaul’s drag race, or who Carmen was, you WOULD NOT be able to clock that! that is an unclockable, 100% passable piece of hot female right there! and you had no right to call her out like that on public television of ALL places you scum.

thats my two cents on the subject, Carmen honey I’m sorry you had to go through that, its not right and I sincerely hope they publicly apologize like they should.  *hugs* stay strong girl! much love to you & all my trans sisters & bros.

PS- HAPPY FUCKIN PRIDE MONTH *RAINBOW CONFETTI* go out there and get you some! (some booze, some hot ass, some partyin it up, whatever you want, its pride and its a month long mardi gras ALL OVER the country! WOOO!…someone slam some tequila for me since i can’t drink 😉 LOL)


update on Miss Carrera and good news for trans students in Arkansas May 26, 2012

A brief update on miss Carmen Carrera, whom some of you may have noticed commented on the previous entry I made about her to let us know that she had not yet had her boob job, posted a video the other day on her youtube w/her partner saying that later this next week she’ll be going to Chicago to have said opperation. *confetti* Hurray for you girlfriend! Hope you enjoy your new titties 😉 and hope you heal quickly from your surgery. The video is posted below in which she tells us all about it, best wishes miss Carrera! CHEERS!

In other good news, the ladies rooms at Arkansas University are now open to all those who identify as female 🙂 you can read all about it here. Cheers ladies! Congrats on your victory! Mazel Tov!


Let Show Some Support, for our new T Family Member, Carmen Carrera May 5, 2012

so I just got confirmation from the artist herself yesterday (via Facebook feed of course, but always good to have it straight form the source) that Miss Carmen Carrera in fact DID discover herself to be trans, has had her boob job & has been on HRT for over a year now, and the bitch is LOOKING FIERCE (but when did she not 😉 ), lets give a GREAT BIG HUG from the T in the GLBT community, welcome to the family girl! May you lead a long, happy. fulfilling and prosperous life in your shiny new skin :).

here’s the photo she posted of her transitional progress-

looking so amazing! WORK!

now, like many during the active airing of RPDR season 3, I had my reasonable suspicions (I can spot a fellow T a mile away, its all in how you carry yourself etc, you learn the signs), BUT I didn’t want to voice my suspicions for a lot of reasons.  the primary one being that in the drag community being an actual TGirl carries a HUGE social stigma along with it, and bringing it up even ruffles some MAD feathers.  This is due, at least in no small part, to the social stigma already in place from the CIS/Het set in society…most, poorly informed I’ll give you, Het. people believe that ALL drag queens secretly want to be women and that the stage portion is just a farce meant to keep up appearances (not unlike the act of having a beard to attend Het. social functions)…this chronic outside mental pressure forces most queens, at one point or another, to question their OWN gender identity on/off the stage and this, for many, can make them both angry and terribly uncomfortable (not unlike the homophobe when confronted w/a gay man)…whether the mental assertion made by society or other queens is TRUE or not, queens are very big on the fact that MOST QUEENS ARE GAY MEN, WANT TO BE MEN AND BE WITH OTHER MEN, and are PERFECTLY HAPPY BEING MEN…but for many MtFs, you get interested in drag as a perfectly NATURAL precursor stage to the idea of transitioning (i wore boy clothes, mens jeans, my male cousins hand me downs instead of my females, in contemporary society especially a farm community where i grew up this is less jarring but i went out of the way & did things like shaved my head in an attempt to feel more at ease w/myself, or stole my dads work shirts, all very VERY common)…anyway, the reason such a revelation tends to ruffle the feathers of the other queens so badly is because they take it as a THREAT, a visual reinforcement that ‘I’m LIKE YOU :O OH FUCK, NOW WHAT?!’ when they generally aren’t, it just angers them because from their vantage point it is a social confirmation that ALL drag queens CLEARLY want to be women and are just staying in the closet for whatever reasons, when its certainly NOT the case.

now that we’ve addressed WHY it ruffles your ladies feathers so badly, now perhaps my DEAR DEAR queens, perhaps YOU can step back and do a lil self examination and consider all the bashing that YOU YOURSELVES have done within the community against your trans sisters/brothers just because, not unlike the homophobe, their personal LIFE clouded YOUR PRECIOUS WORLD VIEW and allowed YOU too loose your shit.  can we consider this please?  this goes out to ANY of you queens who has ever uttered a negative word about the trans men & women in your community who are NO DIFFERENT than you, they just decided to change the wrapper permanently, maybe you’ll stop letting yourself get so caught up in the mainstream social attitudes and focus on NOT tearing apart a community that already has to fight to stay together while the rest of the world desperately tries to destroy us and take away our rights & our lives…

just a lil food for thought.

in conclusion though, i would once again like to extend a hearty virtual handshake and HUG ❤ to our newly out Carmen Carrera, YOU GO GIRL! now go out there and make the TGirls proud 😉 !




A new bill has been passed that will make discrimination based on being trans in regards to employment ILLEGAL! *throws confetti* what a wonderful piece of news, no? it still doesn’t deliver us protection from discrimination in regards to housing, but hey, its a BIG step in the right direction and I’m sure, with work, we’ll push through to get our protection in that area soon enough!

As a citizen living in Oregon, and more specifically Multnomah county, I already enjoyed such protection, but I am THRILLED that its finally being spread on the full blown national level.  Discrimination based on being trans is gender discrimination which we have already declared illegal but just to drive it home here’s a LIL reinforcement :D.  Here’s a link to the article.  *uncorks champagne* so lift your glass & drink a toast to our community, here’s to a WONDERFUL landmark decision on the part of our national government, here’s to more decisions like it in the future and here’s to the eventual END of discrimination across the board! CHEERS QUEERS! 😉 MUCH LOVE! ❤


Trannylicious- Trans Musicians May 11, 2011

In tonight’s Vitamin Gay, I’ll be doing a feature on three transgendered musicians, two of whom I JUST found out about last night.  I’ll be talking about fashion model Amanda Lepore, DJ JohnnyBoyXo and contemporary folk musician Alexander James Adams (who happens to be from the pacific northwest like me).  There will be links to their respective pages so you can read more about them, download their music, watch their videos and share with your friends because these people are excellent!
*note- just please note that, like w/ANYONE in your life, just because you like their music/style/whatever, you may not always agree w/their personal opinions on shit…just keep that in mind, while I like & support these artists, just a disclaimer that they may say stuff on their own blog/fb/interviews etc I may not personally agree w/but that doesn’t mean I respect them any less as an artist and what they say does not necessarily reflect on my own opinions.


Starting out our line up of transgendered musician/performers is miss Amanda Lepore, the nightlife hostess, entertainer & model from Jersey.  Apparently she discovered her trans identity at the young age of 11, and as she wasn’t allowed to attend school dressed as a girl (what a shock) she was home tutored.  Unlike many of us she was lucky to discover herself at a young age and was also able, through various means (read her wiki or bio for more details: ) to sink a fair amount of money into her transformation having multiple surgeries including: breast implants, nose job & other facial alterations for added feminization, and even went so far as to have her bottom rib broken and pushed back (thats commitment).
She has been the face for such cosmetics as Heatherette and MAC and has modeled for numerous fashion labels, I find accomplishments like this particularly impressive considering the fact that she was born at the end of the 60’s and started modeling some time in the 90’s…the acceptance from the people who hired her, I find it inspiring.
She got into music around the beginning of 2000’s and has done work w/artists like Gay rapper Cazwell (an artist I intend to cover at a later date 😉 because I feel he’s note worthy), and has released a handful of singles (all available for listening on and I recommend looking her up on facebook, itunes and lastfm, she is FLAWLESS and talented.  Below is her song ‘My Hair Looks Fierce’, as well as a link to her last fm bio and wiki article.

Amanda Lepore on LastFM
Amanda Lepore’s Wiki Entry

Next in our line up for tonights feature is an artist I literally stumbled upon last night while listening to (you guessed it) last FM, which I had tuned to search for music similar to that of ‘Kelly’ (Liam Kyle Sullivan, artist who did the infamous ‘Shoes’ song & video…another character I intend to feature here later) and JohnnyBoyXo came up w/Trannylicious…and what more can I say than, I am TOTALLY in love w/it.
I enjoy performers, musicians etc who push the gender line, or rather just totally blur it.  JohnnyBoy, apparently considers themselves to be more of a gender bender than an actual transgendered individual though they identify as female.  Details as to when they transitioned (or at the very least had top surgery) were nonforth coming so we’ll just focus on their music.
They come from a catholic school upbringing, so someone I can totally relate to on that level, having been raised catholic myself, and started singing in school choir at age 6.  Their first video apparently targeted the fact that, shock of shocks, there was a lot of intolerance and hate at their school, and the school was far to tolerant of hatred, so they did a video that targeted the boys of their school.  Their youtube channel gained the attention of celb. blogger Perez Hilton which got them the most views and made them an overnight internet sensation.
So discovered online & rocketed to recognition, I give you JohnnyBoyXo and I highly recommend you check out their youtube channel where they vlog (and they DO speak their mind, and if you don’t like it they’ll tell you where you can stick it) and post their music (which is also available for download via itunes).  Enjoy.

JohnnyBoyXo’s Youtube Channel
Buy the music, on ITunes
Follow her on Facebook

And our final artist of the evening is the Heir to the Heatherlands, Alexander James Adams.  This is a COMPLETE deviation from our musical style theme that I’m sure you’ve noticed between Amanda & Johnnyboy, both of whom are club artists, Alexander is a Celtic/Fantasy/Folk artist, who performs more on the fantasy/scifi con circuit.  They gave their final performance as Heather Alexander, whom they’d been performing as for 25 years, at Orycon 2006, where upon they announced that Heather, the changeling, had been called back to the Faerieland and that soon a new heir would come to the Heatherlands, she walked through the door and was never seen again.  They explained their transformation as follows on their website (I find this description particularly touching):
    ‘Heather, who was actually a changeling, was called back to faerieland in November 2006; at the same time, Alexander, the child in whose place she had originally been left and who had been raised in faerieland, was released after beating the faerie queen in a fiddling contest. Thus, Alec now carries on Heather’s musical legacy’ 
While I’m not the BIGGEST of their fans, I do enjoy some of their music and the way in which they handled their transition both as an individual and as an artist.  Further more, they are one of the rare FtM performers out there in the public eye (most of the time when you hear about transgendered people/issues it is mostly centered around a focus on MtF transexuals, there aren’t a lot of FtMs in the public eye…the only other one I can bring to mind is Buck Angel, and he’s a porn star not a musician/performer), so I have a lot of respect for them.
If you enjoy faeries, celtic music & folk, you’ll really enjoy the music form the Heatherlands, be it by Alex or their former counter part Heather who has returned to the realm of the Fae, its beautiful work and revolves largely around their fiddling. Below is a link to a live recording of their song ‘He of the Sidhe’, and a link to their website, they’re an interesting individual and I encourage you to look into their work.

Page of the Faerie Tale Minstrel
Follow the Heir to the Heatherlands on Facebook

And thats tonights daily dose of VITAMIN GAY! hope you enjoyed it, thanks for reading…tomorrow: we’re gonna get deep and discuss the trans bashing that happened in Baltimore at the McD’s, and its aftermath…lets just say ‘McD…I’m not lovin it’ 😉