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the ‘apology’ from cake boss June 13, 2012

so cake boss did ‘apologize’ I use pretty heavy sarcasm because it wasn’t much of an apology, it was an attempt to try & excuse their obscenely RUDE and disrespectful behavior by playing off as ‘oh i was only jokin, i didn’t mean to HURT anyones feelings’ yeah, BULLSHIT!  if your intent wasn’t to make fun of Miss Carmen, then what WAS your intent?

*taps foot* well, i’m WAITING mr. cake boss man…oh whats that? you don’t HAVE an answer, well what a surprise.  people like you and yours absolutely sicken me because you’re a shining example of one of the many problems in this country, the main one being utterly blatant and flagrant IGNORANCE of, well, just about everything.

While we appreciate your ‘apology’ mr. cake boss, it doesn’t come across as at all sincere and instead comes across as a smell pile of shit you plopped out in an attempt to save some face in the PR department…i some how doubt it will placate the community though (certainly doesn’t placate my ass…you didn’t MEAN to hurt her??? you didn’t MEAN to? then what exactly DID you mean by making her the butt of an extremely transphobic joke??? again…waiting for that answer that, if ever it comes, i know wont be satisfactory).  this is NOT a joking matter you asswipe shit stain, this is serious shit and you have seriously bitch slapped our T community right in its face.

you can read their ‘apology‘ on their face book page…and the commentary on the ‘apology’ on cake boss’s face book is just as ignorant…seriously, how do you NOT SEE how hurtful this is? oh right, you’re ignorant, braying jack asses who have no hearts…right, silly me 😛

you CAN NOT just play this off as a ‘WHOOPS my bad, der, sorry’ incident when you had MET w/the individual in question before shooting and discussed what terms were APPROPRIATE to describe and transitioned trans person…but did you use those words? NO, you decided it would be MUCH funnier to freak out ‘cousin anthony’ (who is doubtlessly homophobic, judging by their reaction to this bullshit shenanigans…said individual also refers to Carmen as ‘it’ in their twitter feed, further disrespect but oh my, who’s surprised, raise your hands…oh look, no one…) by telling him he had been flirting with ‘a man’…not a trans woman, not someone who was BORN male and transitioned, no, you decided it would be SO MUCH FUNNIER if you just called her out on national television as a freak, and you’re trying to play it off as ‘oh sorry, we didn’t MEAN anything by it’ yeah, you know what mr. cake boss, FUCK YOU! you can sit & spin mother fucker, assholes like you make me want to wretch, you give me the fucking dry heaves like the hangover from hell (and a headache to match w/your ignorance & utterly blatant stupidity).

i encourage all of you to go tell mr. cake boss man just how you feel on the facebook page (link above, hyper linked) and let him know that his half ass ‘apology’ isn’t good enough and tell him right were he can stick it.  we are not amused and your ‘oh i was just jokin der hur hur’ apology doesn’t cut it and definitely isn’t reading sincere or like you’re SORRY for jack shit, what you’re really sorry for is that you embarrassed your worthless hide and made the show look like a show run by jack asses…which, fact being that it clearly is, job well done ass wipe!

also, be sure to go to Carmen’s page and tell her how much you appreciate her and give her hugs because she had to endure this bullshit which she SO did NOT deserve.  *HUGS FOR CARMEN!* ❤ stay strong chica, your T community and your fans all LOVE YOU! ❤

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take a min to tell ‘cake boss’ what you think of how they treat the T community June 12, 2012

friends, I come to you today to ask that you help spread the word about this very unfortunate incident involving a show on TLC called ‘cake boss‘ (i honestly have no idea what that is, nor do i care to find out after the shit they pulled), who had our girl Carmen Carrera on an episode and said they would use the proper and respectful terms to describe her and then blatantly threw in a ‘whoa thats a MAN’ moment…WTF people, where do you get off?

The incident reasonably upset poor Carmen, apparently made her cry even (poor girl, i would too), and i ask that you sign the petition along w/me to send them a message that this sort of behavior is shamefully wrong and that they should publically apologize for this bullshit because it is NOT ok.

You think its FUN being born into the wrong body fuckers? you think its FUN to make fun of trans individuals & people w/GID? you have no heart!  people w/this problem frequently commit suicide because they just can’t COPE with the way society treats us like circus freaks, we are NOT some side show attraction for you to gawk at people, we are REAL people just like you, w/REAL emotions and the shit you pull frankly is so incredibly hurtful sometimes that you’re luck trans people are largely non-violent unless they’re actively being threatened at the moment because i’d hate to see what would happen if we weren’t.

If Carmen walked down the street, and you had no familiarity w/Rupaul’s drag race, or who Carmen was, you WOULD NOT be able to clock that! that is an unclockable, 100% passable piece of hot female right there! and you had no right to call her out like that on public television of ALL places you scum.

thats my two cents on the subject, Carmen honey I’m sorry you had to go through that, its not right and I sincerely hope they publicly apologize like they should.  *hugs* stay strong girl! much love to you & all my trans sisters & bros.

PS- HAPPY FUCKIN PRIDE MONTH *RAINBOW CONFETTI* go out there and get you some! (some booze, some hot ass, some partyin it up, whatever you want, its pride and its a month long mardi gras ALL OVER the country! WOOO!…someone slam some tequila for me since i can’t drink 😉 LOL)

 

The INCREDIBLY Gay Cast of Frasier, SURPRISE! May 30, 2012

It is all to well known a fact that I am an avid fan of the 1990s NBC sitcom ‘Frasier’ and have been ever since my youth (around age 13), I started watching the early season reruns in the mid 90s and then, once I had caught up to the current story arch, I started catching it in prime time.  For whatever reason my family weren’t fans of the show (probably too intelligent for them…sad but true) but I had always been naturally drawn to it.  It was often asserted by my friends at school that the show was ‘so gay’ and around my freshmen year actor David Hyde Pierce, who played Niles Crane, came out of the closet after much speculation on the part of the general public and media.  It made a lot of sense to me and more over it made sense that he was the character I was most drawn to.

Well, in recent years I downloaded the entire series and have been enjoying it in my free time, often times I throw on a playlist of my favorite episodes to listen to while I sleep, and, naturally, I have become interested in Frasier trivia…its the natural path of any fandom, you want to know all about it.  Well, it turns out that David wasn’t the ONLY gay actor playing it ‘straight’ on the show…in fact it seems producer & main star Kelsey Grammer has a bit of a thing for putting gay actors in straight rolls and having straight characters mistaken for gay for comedic purposes.  One of these I’m sure most of my fellow Frasier fans have already guessed but I’m betting the other two will surprise you ever bit as much as they did me.

We’ll start w/actor Edward Hibbert AKA Gil Chesterton, KACL’s premier food critic and absolutely flaming fop.  On a number of occasions Gil has gone out of his way to ‘IN’ himself, as Frasier put it, by mentioning his ‘wife’ (more mutual beard as she is most likely a lesbian, it is HEAVILY implied) Deb whom his coworkers all assumed was his cat.  He rants about how people are so presumptuous and that ‘honestly, just because a man dresses well and knows how to use a pastry bag makes people jump to wild conclusions!’ (Season 5, episode 17 ‘the perfect guy’).  However, off & on throughout the series it is continually hinted that the character Gil is in fact gay and in the third episode of season 11 ‘The Doctor is Out’, the audience is finally given a nod that yes, Gil is indeed on the ‘down low’ and as queer as a football bat, when he is seen lurking outside bad billy’s reading the paper when Roz & her boyfriend approach to enter her apt. after they go upstairs he tosses the paper on the stack and runs down stairs after straightening his bow tie.  As I have mentioned in a prior post on the blog, actor Edward Hibbert is one of our fine gay actors & advocates for our queer rights.  Finding this out was about as surprising as learning that David was gay, a pleasant surprise but hardly shocking :).

NO, the real surprise are the two actors who’s characters play it so straight you probably never would have suspected.  That would be actors Dan Butler (Bulldog Brisko) and John Mahoney…OMG SHUT UP :O! (no wonder he ended up on my foxy grandpa list…when I was first looking up cast members a few months ago I pulled up an image of him to see how he was aging and was like ‘yeah, I’d totally hit that’ 😉 mystery solved) for real real, he’s well known in the Chicago GLBT scene, though he’s not out to the general public in the sense that no one has ever asked him and he has never felt the need to make a public statement about it.  Understandable given the generation he’s from, he learned to fake it really well to avoid getting beaten up doubtless.  Even if he’s not out entirely, at the very least he knows he can go around his neighborhood etc. w/out being harassed about it etc.

Upon finding out about the later two I was stunned ridged, it explains why those were the characters I was always most drawn too (not unlike my natural draw to George Takei as Sulu in original star trek), and I never would have suspected either of them because they are so talented as actors in those rolls that you really cant’ tell.  I gotta say though, it made my day finding out because it makes every episode of Frasier that much better now and I have all the more appreciation for the sheer talent that went into that silly little show.  I have always said that one of the truest tests of an actors ability is how well you can convince your audience while playing opposite your true sexual orientation (if I had seen Patrick Stewart in Jeffery first and not star trek NG, I would have SWORN he was gay and I don’t think anything short of the actor saying so himself would have convinced me otherwise…speaking of, he guest stars in the episode ‘the doctor is out’ as a gay opera director and he once again flames FABULOUSLY!).  Frasier truly was the gayest show on tv at the time, the only male main cast member who ISN’T gay (unless he’s still in the closet, though i never really got gay off him) is Kelsey, how fun is that?

I certainly have all the deeper appreciation for my Frasier & its cast now, I hope you do too.  Be sure to go out and have a giggle at some of their hilarious antics, especially ‘match maker'(S2, E3), ‘out with dad'(S7, E15), ‘the doctor is out’ (S11, E3) and ‘the dog that rocks the cradle'(S7, E5) all showcase some of the best mistaken orientation gags in the series (dog that rocks the cradle is really more Dan Butler playing it straight amazingly well, like he always does).  Watch & enjoy, and be sure to read up on the actors on their wiki pages (their names are hyper linked).  Here’s to the INCREDIBLY flaming cast of Frasier! Thanks for the years of talented acting and great comedy you brought us in the 90s! CHEERS!

 

PS- Below is the latest update from Carmen, telling us all about how her surgery went, since I’m following her transition I thought I’d share to help keep y’all updated.  Cheers (omg, you gonna look amazing once you’re all healed…not that you weren’t already FLAWLESS 😉 but you knew that <3)

 

 

 

update on Miss Carrera and good news for trans students in Arkansas May 26, 2012

A brief update on miss Carmen Carrera, whom some of you may have noticed commented on the previous entry I made about her to let us know that she had not yet had her boob job, posted a video the other day on her youtube w/her partner saying that later this next week she’ll be going to Chicago to have said opperation. *confetti* Hurray for you girlfriend! Hope you enjoy your new titties 😉 and hope you heal quickly from your surgery. The video is posted below in which she tells us all about it, best wishes miss Carrera! CHEERS!

In other good news, the ladies rooms at Arkansas University are now open to all those who identify as female 🙂 you can read all about it here. Cheers ladies! Congrats on your victory! Mazel Tov!

 

Let Show Some Support, for our new T Family Member, Carmen Carrera May 5, 2012

so I just got confirmation from the artist herself yesterday (via Facebook feed of course, but always good to have it straight form the source) that Miss Carmen Carrera in fact DID discover herself to be trans, has had her boob job & has been on HRT for over a year now, and the bitch is LOOKING FIERCE (but when did she not 😉 ), lets give a GREAT BIG HUG from the T in the GLBT community, welcome to the family girl! May you lead a long, happy. fulfilling and prosperous life in your shiny new skin :).

here’s the photo she posted of her transitional progress-

looking so amazing! WORK!

now, like many during the active airing of RPDR season 3, I had my reasonable suspicions (I can spot a fellow T a mile away, its all in how you carry yourself etc, you learn the signs), BUT I didn’t want to voice my suspicions for a lot of reasons.  the primary one being that in the drag community being an actual TGirl carries a HUGE social stigma along with it, and bringing it up even ruffles some MAD feathers.  This is due, at least in no small part, to the social stigma already in place from the CIS/Het set in society…most, poorly informed I’ll give you, Het. people believe that ALL drag queens secretly want to be women and that the stage portion is just a farce meant to keep up appearances (not unlike the act of having a beard to attend Het. social functions)…this chronic outside mental pressure forces most queens, at one point or another, to question their OWN gender identity on/off the stage and this, for many, can make them both angry and terribly uncomfortable (not unlike the homophobe when confronted w/a gay man)…whether the mental assertion made by society or other queens is TRUE or not, queens are very big on the fact that MOST QUEENS ARE GAY MEN, WANT TO BE MEN AND BE WITH OTHER MEN, and are PERFECTLY HAPPY BEING MEN…but for many MtFs, you get interested in drag as a perfectly NATURAL precursor stage to the idea of transitioning (i wore boy clothes, mens jeans, my male cousins hand me downs instead of my females, in contemporary society especially a farm community where i grew up this is less jarring but i went out of the way & did things like shaved my head in an attempt to feel more at ease w/myself, or stole my dads work shirts, all very VERY common)…anyway, the reason such a revelation tends to ruffle the feathers of the other queens so badly is because they take it as a THREAT, a visual reinforcement that ‘I’m LIKE YOU :O OH FUCK, NOW WHAT?!’ when they generally aren’t, it just angers them because from their vantage point it is a social confirmation that ALL drag queens CLEARLY want to be women and are just staying in the closet for whatever reasons, when its certainly NOT the case.

now that we’ve addressed WHY it ruffles your ladies feathers so badly, now perhaps my DEAR DEAR queens, perhaps YOU can step back and do a lil self examination and consider all the bashing that YOU YOURSELVES have done within the community against your trans sisters/brothers just because, not unlike the homophobe, their personal LIFE clouded YOUR PRECIOUS WORLD VIEW and allowed YOU too loose your shit.  can we consider this please?  this goes out to ANY of you queens who has ever uttered a negative word about the trans men & women in your community who are NO DIFFERENT than you, they just decided to change the wrapper permanently, maybe you’ll stop letting yourself get so caught up in the mainstream social attitudes and focus on NOT tearing apart a community that already has to fight to stay together while the rest of the world desperately tries to destroy us and take away our rights & our lives…

just a lil food for thought.

in conclusion though, i would once again like to extend a hearty virtual handshake and HUG ❤ to our newly out Carmen Carrera, YOU GO GIRL! now go out there and make the TGirls proud 😉 !